We Thought our Son had ADHD – What we Were Told Blew our Minds

Children who have retained reflexes from infancy are often misdiagnosed with ADHD. Do your students have these signs?

We brought our son to be tested for ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) this summer. He was fidgety, found it hard to sit still in school, had low concentration and was very impulsive. In other words, all completely typical symptoms of a fiveyear-old boy.

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But I wanted to be sure so that I could give the best and most appropriate response to support him in being his best self. Also, by nature, I overreact.

To my surprise, the therapist explained that in fact, he did not have ADHD, but that he had retained some of his primitive reflexes: a common issue that is often misdiagnosed as ADHD. These retained reflexes could be responsible for many of the areas that were getting him in trouble at school and at home. Wait, what?

Reflexes are muscle movements that happen unconsciously to certain stimuli. For example, you pull away your hand if it gets burnt on the hair-straightener. Babies are born with a set of these reflexes and they are called ‘primitive reflexes’ because they originate from the most primitive part of the brain.

They are hard-wired into our system to protect us from harm in infancy and to prepare us for later development changes like sitting and crawling. In fact, that’s why such steps are so important in a baby’s development.

Primitive reflexes should disappear within the first year of life and are replaced by higher-level conscious reflexes, but when they are retained instead, these pathways in the brain can result in symptoms that are linked to immaturities such as clumsiness, lack of concentration, squirming, over sensitivity, poor coordination, and much more.

Like anything, there are different levels of severity depending on how much of a reflex is retained. Luckily, my son had only retained two reflexes and they were extremely mild. The therapist was sure that with some repetitive exercises, we should notice a big difference.

The Moro reflex develops in a baby while in the womb and is fully noticeable at birth. It is the way your little one ‘startles’ suddenly in their sleep. It is part of the fight or flight survival response. It is completely involuntary and is activated at brainstem level.

If this reflex is retained, your child will have an exaggerated startle reaction – they will constantly be ‘on alert’ and ready to react very quickly to anything that can be perceived as ‘danger’ (including school yard fights!).

This over-activation can also impact other parts of your child’s body – high cortisol levels released will result in an inability to balance blood sugar levels and can affect energy and mood throughout the day.

What struck me is that often, a child is labeled as having behavioural problems or being disruptive in school when in fact, they are unable to control this reaction in themselves.

Our therapist explained that my son involuntarily might kick his feet under the desk, while sitting in school. It seems like he is being ‘difficult’ or ‘disruptive,’ but the reality is that he simply doesn’t even realise what he’s doing – it is involuntary.

In the school line, he might look around, and slightly lose balance because of another reflex called the Symmetrical Tonic Neck Reflex (ATNR). It looks to the teacher like he is pushing in the line when, in fact, he has just fallen forward. The more it was explained to me, the more I realised how this was impacting every part of my son’s life.

Another reflex is the Spinal Galant Reflex. This is where your baby curves their back when you stroke a finger down their spine. Its purpose is to encourage movement for walking and crawling. Those who retain this reflex can often have problems such as bed-wetting, fidgeting, the inability to sit still and an inability to concentrate.

This is why ADHD is often, and wrongly, diagnosed. It is vital to your child’s well-being that you consider all avenues of possibility before a diagnosis. If your child has retained reflexes, the good news is that these reflexes can often be overcome through movement re-education or re-patterning of the brain.

The brain is extremely plastic. By taking the body through the physical motions of the developmental stage which was skipped, the brain is encouraged to develop the connections, which should have been formed during infancy.

We have exercises to do at home each evening with my son. The idea is that repetition should help the brain to reform these connections. We have already noticed some changes after 6 weeks – a calmer child who is less impulsive.

Of course, my son’s personality also plays a large part. He is like his dad – energetic and mischievous, and I wouldn’t want to change that for the world. But the part I feel I CAN guide him through, I will focus on now and hopefully it will help him navigate the world a little more smoothly.

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Amanda Cassidy


Amanda Cassidy is the Features Editor for Irish and UK parenting site,
MummyPages. She lives in Dublin, Ireland, with her husband and three children - aged 3, 5 and 6 and enjoys sharing her parenting journey through her mummyblog, The Mouthy Mum. You can find more information on ADHD and other parenting resources on www.mummypages.ie