Why is learning so scary?

Screen Shot 2015-04-08 at 2.42.38 pmFor many people, choosing a new phone may be an exciting task, however when I took my Dad to get a new phone recently, he said, “I don’t want a smart phone, I just want one like the one I have – so I don’t have to learn anything new.” This is not the first time I have heard this phrase, however it is one that scares me. “I don’t want to learn.” Five words that not only send shivers up my spine; they also make me feel that the education system has failed that person.

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Now I realise that the education system my Dad grew up in was different to today, but I do not see this as a generational phrase as I hear it from all ages. Whether people are buying a new phone, changing jobs or buying a new brand of toothpaste, change can be scary.

The older I get, the more comfortable I feel with my choices and decisions and yet I know that true growth means being uncomfortable and working through the hard to get to the easy.

I see this comfort turn to complacency in so many ways, in so many lives. In senior classrooms I often hear students asking, “Do I need to write this down?”, “Should I underline this?” or “What colour should I use?” These questions indicate to me that these students have not been empowered to be learners and they are still wanting to please the teacher and not be wrong.

Teachers also demonstrate this complacency to learning. It still amazes me how many teachers turn up to a PD session without any note-taking materials. In fact, when I pointed this out to a group of teachers recently, one told me that he expected to be given the notes. Translation – I want to be a passive learner. The challenge is learning is not a passive event.

So what is learning? Wikipedia says:

Learning is the act of acquiring new, or modifying and reinforcing, existing knowledge, behaviours, skills, values, or preferences and may involve synthesising different types of information.

This is my attempt: Learning is acquiring ‘new’ – something that was not known before. It is about changing your perspective, adding more and combining to come up with something different or new. (I’m not sure I have encapsulated this fully – I’d love to know your ideas – perhaps a discussion for the next staff meeting)

So why is this learning business so scary? The words failure, uncomfy, and vulnerable also come to mind. To learn you have to risk being wrong, risk not knowing and it is uncomfortable. You may even risk looking foolish in front of your peers.

Learning means being able to be comfortable about the unknown and the different. The fear of the unknown is well documented – here is one of my favourite examples…

An Arab chief tells the story of a spy captured and sentenced to death by a General in the Persian Army. This General had the strange custom of giving condemned criminals a choice between the firing squad and “the big, black door.”

The moment for execution drew near, and guards brought the spy to the Persian General. “What will it be?” asked the general. “The firing squad or ‘the big, black door?’”

The spy hesitated for a long time. Finally he chose the firing squad.

A few minutes later, hearing the shots ring out confirming the spy’s execution, the General turned to his aide and said, “They always prefer the known to the unknown. People fear what they don’t know. Yet, we gave him a choice.”

“What lies beyond the big door?” asked the aide.

“Freedom,” replied the General. “I’ve known only a few brave enough to take that door.”

Don McCullough, Solana Beach, California, quoted in Leadership, Winter Quarter, 1992, p. 57.

I have been pondering these questions.

  • Do great learners develop a familiarity to feeling uncomfy?
  • Do they rise above the fear of failure (or even success) to learn?
  • Do they embrace the unknown and move forward anyway?
  • What sets our successful learners apart?
  • In what ways can teachers set up anenvironment for best learning?

While researching this article, I came across a blog on MindShift about creating classrooms with inquiry learning. Of the 8 ideas offered, number six rings true for me.

EMBRACE FAILURE.

Diana Laufenberg made a point of defining the difference between “blameworthy” and “praiseworthy” failure. Blameworthy failure is when the student just decided not to participate in a project. But praiseworthy failure is quite different: kids take risks and experiments knowing that they might not get it right the first time.

“No one talks about cancer research as blameworthy failure,” she said. “We don’t expect a five-year-old to be able to shoot free- throws immediately. It’s a process, and we value

it in other things, but not when it comes to school. Kids are not coming in as perfect little products or machines — they’re human beings in the process of becoming.”

In the engineering industry, for example, there are “failure festivals” and “failure reports” during which engineers discuss the processes they’ve tried that didn’t work. “We need to have kids do that with their own learning,” she said. “Be self-aware enough to do something with that information.”

The bigger part of education is that sometimes what our students need to learn has nothing to do with the content being taught. As we are preparing them to be life- long learners, this must include students being fully aware of the learning process and the feelings associated with it. It’s a process… and needs to be made explicit to students so they know it is OK to fail and be wrong. I love the idea of having a failure festival – celebrating the mistakes and knowing it is all part of the process.

Learned helplessness often comes from the fact that people have not been able to make their own mistakes, with helicopter parents, older siblings and teachers frequently ‘doing it for them because it is quicker or easier.’ This poster hangs in my kitchen as a reminder for all my family to allow others to learn from their own mistakes and efforts.

Showing students the progressions and steps in their learning is also paramount. Simply knowing your next steps and the bigger picture of what you are expected to achieve can assist the learning process immensely.

One of my concerns is many students are not being stretched and are not often at the edge of their comfort zone – especially those labelled gifted and talented. Life and learning are often easy and they rarely, if ever, get the chance to fail and feel uncomfy.

I would love to see more classrooms having open conversations about learning, failure and responsible risk taking. Talking about what it means to be a continual learner. I recently observed a teacher taking a small group lesson and a student commented, “This is hard.” It is supposed to be – it means you are at your comfy edge and are now stretching, and it might take several goes, some practice, asking questions and a bit of expert coaching or feedback. However if you persist you will learn and enlarge your comfort zone.

In what ways might you shed light onto the learning process this week and term to ensure your students are learning at capacity – so that they know learning does not have to be a scary process? How might you prepare students to be life-long learners, willing to take responsible risks, give new ideas a go and understand that failure is an integral part of the learning process?

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Karen Tui Boyes


Karen Tui Boyes is a champion for LifeLong Learning. A multi-award-winning speaker, educator and businesswoman, she is an expert in effective teaching, learning, study skills, motivation and positive thinking. Karen is the CEO of Spectrum Education, Principal of Spectrum Online Academy and the author of 10 books. She loves empowering teachers, parents and students and is the wife to one and the mother of two young adults.
Karen was named the GIFEW Evolutionary Woman of the Year 2022.